Keep the Surprise in Gift Giving (Private Online Shopping)

On December 26th at 12:01 am, the carols instantly stopped and the pop/rock songs began. Christmas was over (sigh).

I mulled over the giving and receiving of gifts that had occurred Christmas morning. No squeals of delight or “what-were-you-thinking?” reactions and the much-desired element of surprise was missing a couple of times.

I’m sure that online shopping was bigger this year and will continue to grow in the future, but there’s a trade-off for that convenience — it spoils the tradition and joy of surprise that comes from hiding Christmas presents. I remember hiding the boys’ gifts when they were small so their eyes were wide with surprise when they entered the living room on the big day. Now that I look back, it was easier keeping their gifts in the garage, car trunk or the guest room closet. These days, you must be prepared to intercept the deliveryman, hide email receipts in folders with code names (“Menopause” is a good one), scrub your internet history and buy outside of your shared bank accounts so a loved one doesn’t see charges on the credit card or debits in the checking account.

I enjoyed using Amazon’s Prime membership to do some of my shopping. But when you share an Amazon login to get the Prime benefits (or forget to log out), “Your Recently Viewed Items and Featured Recommendations Inspired by your browsing history” pops up. (This could also cause disappointment on Christmas morning when your husband sees a recently viewed 60” HD TV and then receives a wallet).

My husband’s thoughtful gift to me was a patio heater. I knew a couple of weeks before Christmas because it was delivered to our doorstep with an emblazoned ink drawing of the contents right on the box.

My husband’s gift came in a box clearly labeled Germack Pistachio Company.  Yikes!   Surprise foiled again!   Of course my husband and I assured each other that we were both adults and we could deal, but it was a little disappointing.

We have less privacy when shopping online than shopping in stores (especially if you’re sharing computers or smart phones). I visited my Facebook page to relax after shopping, and everything I had just browsed had an ad plastered all over my page!  “Big Brother” instantly came to mind…it felt really creepy!  Every time you buy online, you create a profile that other companies try to match to get your business.  Shoppers are then found out when a loved one notices the targeted advertising that pops up on the computer or Facebook page.  Although online shopping is convenient, there is no foolproof way to make sure the gift recipient doesn’t stumble on your purchase. You can, however, cover some of your technological tracks:

  1. When sharing an Amazon Prime account, either avoid logging in to your Amazon account while shopping or remove those recently viewed items. Scroll to the bottom of the page and click “view or edit your browsing history” at the end of the horizontal bar with thumbnails of the items you’ve recently viewed.
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    Once on your browsing history page, delete each item one at a time.
  2. If you keep a wish list on Amazon, I have discovered that it offers a “Don’t spoil my surprises” option for the wish list feature by keeping bought items marked as “un-purchased”. See how at Amazon.
  3. To avoid spoiling the surprise by a gift waiting on your doorstep with images of the contents, order from one of the merchants that allow pick up at the store, (Wal-Mart, Best Buy and Apple are some of the stores that offer this option). Another option is to ship deliveries to an alternate location. Ask if personal deliveries are allowed at your workplace, or ship to a family member, friend or trusted neighbor. Also, FedEx has a feature to hold your delivery at the nearest FedEx location for pickup (and it’s free!). More information can be found at the FedEx website.
  4. Close your email and social media accounts when your computer is unattended.
  5. Use a separate credit card, bank account or gift card to purchase for your partner.
  6. Keep pop ups at a minimum:
    • delete your browser history by deleting your cookies. Google “how to delete cookies on (Mac, Firefox, Internet Explorer, etc.).
    • use Google Chrome, Firefox, Safari or Internet Explorer as browsers. Google Chrome allows you to search the web “incognito”; Safari and Firefox call it “Private Browsing; Explorer calls it “InPrivate Browsing”
    • control ads on your iPhone, iPad or iPod Touch. Go to settings>Privacy>Advertising
    • Digital Ad Alliances’s AdChoices button  AdChoices Button at the top of corner ads, could limit the number of ads. More information can be found at http://www.youradchoices.com
    • Opt out of ads: For Microsoft go to: http://choice.microsoft.com/en-US  for Google go to: www.google.com/policies/technologies/ads

Finally, install a good ad blocker. Adblocker Plus is a free, customizable browser extension that blocks banners, video ads, and pop-ups, and prevents companies from tracking your browsing data. It’s available for Firefox, Safari, Chrome, and Internet Explorer, as well as Android.

Now you’re prepared to shop online privately.  If you need more help, perhaps you can take “Intro to KGB Clandestine Operations” at your local community college.

Letters to Santa (Merry Christmas)

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Everyone needs a little help sometimes. Even Santa Claus.

It’s a busy time for Santa, with making the last of the toys, checking his list, checking it twice and making sure that all of the nice children receive a gift. We won’t even talk about packing the sleigh and delivering them all! In between the hustle and bustle, Santa reads all of the letters he receives and, for the children of Hardin County, he makes certain they receive a response.

For many years, he has asked Lisa, his friend (and mine), to assist him in getting his letters sorted and delivered before his visit on Christmas Eve. Lisa, our former post master, always finds the time to help. The past few years, a few of us have helped, too.

Santa enjoys the children’s letters so much, he thought others may, too, and asked me to share some of them with you. Sometimes the writing made us smile; sometimes the pictures did. A few of them tugged at our hearts. We hope you enjoy them as much as we did.

Wishing you a Merry Christmas and a blessed New Year!
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chimney

atsan

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hunter

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everything

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hawaii

daddy

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Get Togethers (Fun for Everyone)

It wasn’t planned. It happened by chance. Over the years, though, it became sort of a tradition: bring something to our family Christmas get together that everyone could enjoy.

It started as a used-wrapping-paper-ball fight. Opening gifts at our family Christmas is chaotic, to say the least. 15+ people opening gifts at the same time, screeching, calling out names of next-gift recipients, showing our new treasure to whoever is paying attention (if anyone), admiring from a distance and someone, probably our brother, wadded up the torn-off gift wrap and threw it across the room. The person that was hit retaliated, but hit someone else. The rest is history.

We have wadded-gift-wrap fights every year now. It adds to the chaos and creates a whole lot of laughter. Irene and I wanted to provide additional laughs, so we tried to add a little something extra to our get togethers. Sometimes they’re simple, like board games. Sometimes, they’re more complex. They’re always fun.

If you’re hosting — or attending — a get together during the holidays, consider adding a small “surprise” for everyone’s enjoyment. Here’s just a few of our favourites:

SPIT BALLS:
We purchased these large, pre-made paper spit balls (No spit required. Yay!) and blowing straws and laid them around the rooms. Throughout the night, people would simply surprise someone by blowing a spit ball at them.

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PLACE SETTING GIFTS:
When having guests for dinner, have a small gift at every place setting. We’ve used Victorian Paper Cones filled with treats, gourmet chocolates, small oil lamps, Christmas ornaments and fun “nose cups”.

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BEARDOS:
Irene (so talented!) crocheted beardos for the men (and some of the women). Great for laughs, they are also practical gifts. My husband still wears his when walking outside on a cold day. Don’t crochet? You can ask a friend to make them or purchase them on Etsy.

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UGLY CHRISTMAS SWEATERS:
We purchased Ugly Christmas Sweaters for every guest. We didn’t pay any heed to size or gender. If the sweater handed to you was far too large, or too small, it added to the “ugliness”. We also brought a few musical Christmas ties. Consider having a fashion show or vote for the ugliest and have a prize.

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RELEASING WISHES:
Wish lanterns are great for everyone. Light the candle, make a wish and release these paper lanterns into the night.

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SLINGSHOT FLYING ANIMALS:
Each guest received a Slingshot Flying Animal. Stretch the strong rubber band in their neck and send them flying across the room while they make their animal-appropriate scream. The Christmas carols were accompanied by moo-ing, cluck-ing,  and oink’ing as cows, chickens, pigs, monkeys and frogs flew through the room and bounced off our heads. My husband and I still let them fly every now and then.

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DIRTY SANTA:
For the past several years, we’ve played Dirty Santa.

Everyone playing the game brings a wrapped gift worth $30-$50 and the gifts are put in a pile. We all draw a number and the person with #1 picks a gift to open from the pile. The person with #2 can choose to open another package or steal the gift from #1. Each person then chooses a gift from the pile, or steals a previously opened gift. If a gift is stolen, the person who originally had it steals from someone else or picks another gift to open. The game continues like this until everyone takes a turn opening or stealing a gift. After everyone has chosen, the person with #1 can steal from anyone (since they didn’t have a chance to steal originally). Once a gift is stolen three times, it’s retired from the game.

From memory, these are the gifts that have been stolen the most: carry-on luggage, steak knives, Christmas Vacation Moose Mugs, an engraved bottle of Woodford Reserve bourbon, bathroom rugs (odd, right?) and a movie package that contained an electric throw, several DVD’s and theater candy.

You can also opt to have a “White Elephant” Dirty Santa where gag gifts are brought and the goal is to leave with the least horrendous gift.

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HIDE A PICKLE:
An old German tradition, we hide a pickle ornament on the tree. The first person to find it receives a special gift.

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BEAT A PIG:
In Victorian holiday tradition, the pig is considered a symbol of good health, happiness and prosperity (which is why we always eat pork on New Year’s Day). Each year, we get a Saratoga Peppermint Pig (the best, best peppermint ever!) from Saratoga Sweets. One of the guests names the pig and we put him in a faux velvet bag. He is passed around and everyone takes turns beating him with a small hammer. Then we all get to enjoy a piece of peppermint (which is great for digestion).

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TREATS:
Irene always makes a special edible treat for everyone: Homemade Flavoured Cocoa (mine was Salty Caramel Mmmmmm), Meat Rubs, Flavoured Spicy Popcorn, Caramel Corn, Angel Wings. The list goes on. Pinterest is a great source for ideas. Put together a treat for your guest to enjoy.

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REINBEER:
One of the things I enjoyed most during our trip to Ireland was sampling all of the different beers. I decided to give the guests a sample. I selected beer that would be meaningful to each guest, but still new to them: German for a nephew, Scottish for my son, each beer reflecting their unique personality. Pinterest helped me make them special by gluing google eyes, pompom nose and pipe cleaner antlers on the necks of each bottle. A felt scarf finished turning the bottles of beer into Reinbeer.

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CIGARS:
This was one of my personal favourites. After dinner, each guest received a cigar specially selected just for them. We brought them out on a silver-plated tray which also held the end cutter. It felt like an old-fashioned men’s club while my sister-in-law, who never smoked, puffed her fruity, petite cigarillo and my brother-in-law, who is a big man, enjoyed his torpedo. My brother, of course, had to have one bigger then everyone else’s. Being a “queen” , mine had to cost the most. Mom and the children enjoyed a box of chocolate cigars imported from Switzerland.

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ICE SKATING PARTY:
One of the most complex surprises to date has been the ice skating party. My husband built a huge skating pond in the backyard. We decorated the bushes with lights. We surrounded it with hay bales (for sitting), and put fleece blankets on the bales (for warming). We bought 17 pairs of skates (believe me when I say, finding a pair of men’s size 14s is not an easy task) and made pompoms for the lady’s pairs. We got hobo pie makers for “cooking” our supper and filled thermoses with hot cocoa, coffee, chicken soup, and for the adults, a little warming nip of peppermint schnapps. Irene made CDs with ice skating songs and crocheted everyone a pair of mittens and a scarf. We also had a pair of socks and slippers selected for their personality waiting for them in the house. Inside, the house was strewn with plates of chocolates from around the world. Each guest received a copy of the CD, fleece blanket, slippers, socks, mittens and scarf. It was magical! Until 2 days before the party when the temperature rose and the ice melted. We ended up staying comfy in our socks and slippers, eating chocolates while sipping schnapps and admiring the view from indoors.

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Whatever your choice, have fun together! Your guests may not remember what was for dinner, but they’ll always remember the laughs.

The Art of Giving–Part 2 (Gift Giving on a Budget)

If you only have a little money to budget for Christmas gifts, don’t get frustrated! Here are some solutions that are tried and true.

THRIFT STORES AND CONSIGNMENT SHOPS:
Christmas shopping doesn’t have to be expensive. There’s no shortage of privately owned and charitable second-hand stores that have a treasure trove of things that are suitable for gift recipients on your list. Surely you have someone who appreciates the now-popular vintage style, an antiques lover, a collector or a book fanatic.

Some of my favorite gifts have come from Goodwill, St. Vincent DePaul and other thrift stores.
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Not only are “second-hand boutiques” great sources for the non-traditional, White Elephant exchanges, they have a treasure trove of items that can be repurposed.  Look at these examples:

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The photo on the left is a large rug that our (very creative) friend, Regina, made from wool sweaters that she felted.  In the center photo, Regina made this beautiful brooch, again from thrifted wool sweaters.  Finally, the photo on the right is what I call a Souvenir Scarf.  Sandy made these for all the ladies one Christmas.  She customized  each with thrifted t-shirts.  Mine included University of Michigan, Las Vegas, Mardi Gras,  and Jimmy Buffett.

You can save time as well as big bucks: Commit to thrifting year-round and you can avoid several days of mall craziness next Christmas!

By shopping thrift stores and second-hand boutiques, not only do you save money, but you assist in funding programs and services for people in need, you support your local economy and you do your part for the environment.

MAKE IT:
Everyone can create. Use it to make something for that special someone. I’ve crocheted gifts, made salsa, BBQ rubs and salted caramel hot chocolate.  On the receiving end, there’s been homemade biscotti (yum), soap, jewelry and ornaments.

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The most cherished handmade gifts are those that invoke or preserve memories. My friend, Shelley, taught me that quilts could offer some small comfort in times of grief by wrapping the quilt around you when missing your loved one. So, when Sandy made a quilt using Mom’s clothing (see Memory Quilt post) I don’t think my eyes were dry for the rest of the evening.

Memory quilt
Putting family recipes into a scrapbook for the next generation was welcomed.

Recipe book
THE GIFT OF YOUR TIME:
Skip the store-bought presents and give a little bit of your time. This is a true gift of from the heart.

Food is Love. Invite them over for a special meal or one in their honor. You can promise to take them to a restaurant they’ve always wanted to try. Or how about delivering an entire meal for the family so they don’t have to cook?

Offer to help with home improvement. Whether it’s painting or landscaping, this would be welcomed by almost anyone. I remember purchasing annuals for our mother on Mother’s Day. But planting them with her direction,  was the true gift.

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Give a promise to create something together.   I attended this Arty Party near my home.  We had a little wine, some music, great fun and created something beautiful to take home. And don’t forget, the time you spend together is priceless. If you’re outside the Northern Kentucky area, I suggest you Google “art party” and include your location.

Offer your talents. If your friend or family member sucks at organizing, offer to organize a closet, an attic or basement. How about putting together their resume, making a web page or doing their taxes? Is someone on your list a clutter-bug? Offer to de-clutter and have a garage sale. Then do something together with the extra cash. Are you awesome at photography, decorating cakes, knitting or car repairs? Offer to teach that special someone. We all have talents we can share.

Share in the cause. Find out which causes are most important and offer to volunteer with them. Your gift will not only make them feel great, but you’ll help make the world a better place.

Give the gift of an experience. Tour your city on Segways. See a play together. Have a psychic tell your future. Share your first horseback ride. You get the idea!

If you’d like to make a gift-wrapped presentation, print a gift certificate or a coupon book.

Go forth and be a great Santa!