A Wee Glimpse of Ireland

While everyone is wearing their shamrocks and drinking green beer, I thought I’d share a wee glimpse of our last trip to Ireland. Click a picture for more.

“…And if you can’t go to heaven,
May you at least die in Ireland.”

 

Ireland - The Country

 

Rolling, green hills, castle ruins and cemeteries, quaint villages and vibrant cities made it one our favourite places to visit!

 

 

 

 

 

Ireland Castles

 

It’s said that there are over 30,000 castles and castle ruins dotted all over the Irish landscape. Here are just a few of our favourites.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ireland - The People

 

Humorous, warm, friendly and utterly charming, the Irish people we met felt like family we actually liked.

 

 

 

 

 

Ireland - Food and Drink

 

From pubs to Michelin Star restaurants, the food was fabulous and the drink, even better!

Peter O’Toole, on his favourite Irish food: “My number one choice is Guinness. My number two choice would be Guinness. My number three choice would have to be Guinness.”

 

 

 

 

By blood, I’m not Irish, but this beautiful country and people captured my heart and spirit! Now, it’s calling me back. See you in Ireland!

All About…Crap! I Forgot! (Memory Loss)

Who hasn’t forgotten someone’s name or missed an appointment? Everybody. Right? Still, I worry that my memory loss is more than occasional forgetfulness. I have become that person who places the remote on the phone base. That person who panics when she can’t find her iPhone and it’s clutched in her hand. That person who stops in the middle of a sentence so she can try to recall the word, “bagel”. That person who took pride in grammar and spelling and now stares at the word “practicle” and wonders why it looks odd. The correct term is “brain fog”. My memory is worse than Winnie-the-Pooh’s, so I call it “stuffed with fluff”.

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Sandy insists there’s nothing to worry about. Our brains do not get weak; they simply know more. Our brain, she explains, is like a file cabinet and our memories are the files. She then explains that at an older age, our “file cabinet” is full and it takes longer to retrieve a file. I get it. But when I try to pull a memory from, let’s say this morning, the file sometimes comes back empty! I need a better filing system!

I realize that our memory declines as we age, but it’s not just forgetting. There are other types of memory issues I’ve noticed with those of us on the other side of 40. Here are some examples:

“Brain Running Faster than the Mouth” Syndrome

We speak at approximately 115 words-per-minute, but we think at approximately eight times that speed. Sandy’s thoughts run fifty times the speed of her spoken words. This is something Sandy demonstrates with a fair amount of regularity. She thinks she has vocalized internal thoughts when only a part of it comes out. 

“Mouth Running Faster than Brain” Syndrome

I have the opposite problem. I fear that an idea will be forgotten as fast as it was formed, so I sometimes combine two or more thoughts into one sentence. I need to use a period after every thought.

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Selective memory

Me: Where’s the milk?
Husband: Milk! Did you tell me to get milk?
Me: It’s on the list!
Husband:  I forgot.
Me: But you didn’t forget the chocolate cake.
Husband: See? I remembered something.
Me: It wasn’t on the list! And neither were the chips, licorice and lottery tickets.
Husband: <grinning>

Repeating ourselves

We’ve all experienced it with our aging parents or grandparents, me included. It can be annoying. Apparently, I now do it as well. Obviously I don’t remember to whom I’ve told a story or event. This is called “destination amnesia”. My boys don’t roll their eyes. They have a tongue-in-cheek code to indicate that they’ve heard it 10, 20, 30, 40 or more times.

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Absent-mindedness

My dear, funny, friend Shelley, constantly forgets the small stuff, like where she left her water. She’s younger than I am, so I attribute her forgetfulness to having too much on her mind. The good news is, she remembers the important things: her faith, her family and her friends.

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All Is Not Lost

Memory loss is not an inevitable result of aging.

  • Just like a muscle, you have to “use it or lose it”. My mother-in-law constantly exercises her brain. At 83 years of age, she’s adept at the iPad, follows a road-trip route on a map, reads voraciously and loves movies. So, learn a new craft, memorize the words to Bare Naked Ladies’ “One Week” or play chess. Try online games. Studies show adults that played online games regularly boosted their working memory. Lumosity offers a customized training plan. Give it a try.
  • Physical activity, especially aerobics, appears to boost the size of the brain area involved in verbal memory, focus and learning. Do the cha-cha, walk or ride a bike to enjoy the great outdoors, go swimming or, if it’s cold or rainy, bring out the Nintendo WII and bowl with friends.
  • One of the most important things you can do for your memory is to simply eat well-balanced meals. Brain cells, like all body cells, need adequate nutrition for normal activity. No need to dwell on what we should eat. We all know that eating well means a diet low in fat and high in fruits, whole grains, vegetables, and protein.
  • This may be surprising to some, but drinking plenty of water has an effect on our focus. Even mild dehydration (you don’t really feel it) can lead to inattention. More serious dehydration will cause impaired cognitive function and lethargy.
  • This one shouldn’t be difficult for most of us, get your beauty sleep! The inability to concentrate is often caused by a lack of sleep, so make sure you get enough shut-eye.
  • When trying to focus, bring yourself to the present by concentrating on something randomly chosen. Wiggle your toes, snap a rubber band on your wrist or pinch your earlobe. These reminders will instantly rope in your wandering mind and bring you back to the present–where you belong.
  • Associate an external event with something you want to remember. This results in those “Oh! That reminds me” moments. I use this technique to remember to water my plants. When I take my vitamins, I water one plant with the remaining water. So each plant gets a drink every 4 or 5 days.
  • Don’t multi-task. I sometimes feel like a failure if I’m not doing our taxes, while browsing the web, eating dinner, and talking on the phone with an old friend. Like our brains, focus should be treated like a muscle, as well. The more time you spend focused, the stronger and easier it gets.

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  • Be conscious of when there’s something you need to remember. Say it out loud by asking someone to remind you. I can even remember the row I’m crocheting when I use this trick.
  • Use creative methods like a reward system. When you stay focused for a time, reward yourself with a little treat

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  • Use Google like a pro. I LOVE Google. It doesn’t take me long to find the British actor who played in that movie about rockets which started with an “R” (I think).
  • Take regular breaks. When my brain is getting a real workout, I like to take a 45-minute break for every 10 minutes of work.
  • Counting also works for me. I recall a scene in a movie where Anthony Hopkins explains to the new wife his nightly bedtime routine. Unfortunately, I don’t recall the movie, but that scene left an impression on me. I now count six things I need to do before bed, four things after I park the car and seven things before bed.
  • Here’s a suggestion (I’m willing to try): a compound found in red wine may help prevent age-related memory loss!

So, before you diagnose yourself with Alzheimer’s or Dementia, take heart. Experts say some memory lapses are normal as we age. I don’t need to become the Scrabble World Champion, I just have to remember where I parked my car!

It’s Your Time

Just over a year ago, my friend, Jean, was faced with making a major decision: should she retire? She had put in a grueling, stressful, 35+ years and drove over an hour (when conditions were perfect) just to get to work. Another hour or more to get home. The company she worked for had made an offer to encourage retiring. If she declined, it would be the equivalent of working for free for the next two years. I wouldn’t have hesitated! I didn’t 6 years ago, and there was no company offer for me.

I was perplexed by her hesitation, so I asked. Her reply was to the point: she feared becoming a couch-potato.

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I was astonished. I couldn’t remember a time when I was ‘bored’. At least, not since I was 4 years old. My dilemma is quite the opposite: I don’t have enough time.

Too many things were put on the back burner for too long. We put some of our dreams on hold. We went to college, got married, had children, got jobs. We did what we were supposed to do.

I’m not complaining. I love my family and my life. What I’m saying is, now it’s my time. It’s our time. It’s your time.

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It never occurred to me that someone didn’t have a want-to-do list as long as their arm. I was wrong. I have encountered many people that aren’t quite sure what they should do with the extra time. If you struggle with ways to fill yours, consider these:

DOCUMENT YOUR LIFE

Capture your heritage, recipes, or life story. Start a journal, make a scrapbook, or write a blog. Put the family photos in order or create a family tree. Write a book. It doesn’t matter if it gets published. (But, you never know! Look at J. K. Rowling and the Harry Potter series.)

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JOIN A GROUP

There are so many activities that you could join. Start bowling, wine tasting, poker night or a quilting bee. Not only do you get to do something that you’re interested in, you get to socialize regularly, too. Can’t find the right group to join? Be the one to start it!

TAKE A CLASS

Learn something you’ve always wanted to do or just recently became interested in or curious about. Many communities offer Adult Learning classes at night at the high schools. The Art Institute offers culinary classes. Become an actor, costume designer or set decorator at a local theatre. Look through your local newspaper or church paper. Have you always wanted to dance, learn a language, pilot a plane, learn to knit, make stained glass or start wood carving? This is a great time to finally do it.

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SPEND TIME WITH OTHERS

There’s the obvious choice: volunteer. So many wonderful organizations need help. Middle-aged men and women are generally more reliable and experienced. An organization would be silly to turn down your time.  Besides charitable organizations, there are church functions, political parties, senior centers, schools and hospitals near you that would welcome your time. Friends Of Libraries (FOL) are always looking for support.

There’s also less obvious choices. A younger friend or relative may need help with picking up or dropping off their children. Someone may need a regular ride to doctor appointments and treatments. If you have a talent, you could teach (sewing, piano, reading, baking) and make a little extra money while you’re at it. You could plan and throw regular dinner parties for friends, neighbors, and relatives you just don’t get to spend enough time with.

START A BUSINESS

Put all of that experience to work for yourself. Start a small business (or a large one if you’re adventurous). The list of ideas is endless.

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WORK PART TIME

No one said you couldn’t work after retiring. Of course you can! It doesn’t have to be 40 hours a week and you should be able to worry less about pay scale. You probably have the flexibility to get a job close to home (walking to work is wonderful!), doing something you enjoy, for a few days a week. Work at the local florist, bookstore or thrift shop.

EXPLORE

The world is waiting for you! Now is the time to explore. Take day trips, or long adventures. This may be your only opportunity, so don’t wait.

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Jean has been retired over a year now. She can’t figure out how she used to get things done while working full-time. Her days are full. Now, we’re working on the nights!


How do you spend your time? We’d like to know. Please leave comments on ideas and activities that you finally have the time to pursue.

Related Article: Be sure to also read Finding Your Passion (Getting motivated).

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Many Happy (Tax) Returns (Common Mistakes)

I’ve been a tax professional since the 1998 tax season. I have prepared hundreds of tax returns for a variety of clients including strippers, hookers, funeral directors, sperm and egg donors and even ghost busters! Many of the clients I’ve seen over the years have had mistaken ideas about taxes. It’s no wonder. The complexity of the tax code is written on approximately 75,000 pages.

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Don’t make the most common mistakes I’ve witnessed over the years:

1) Missed deductions

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  • Don’t forget to claim charitable gifts made through payroll deductions. They sometimes don’t show up on your W-2.
  • You can’t deduct the value of your time spent volunteering, but if you buy supplies for a cause, the cost of those materials are deductible as an itemized charitable donation. Also, mileage to the charity event is deductible.
  • All types of non-cash donations, from jeans to cars, could be valuable tax deductions, so make sure you count them all when you file. They must be in “good” or better condition and they must be given to qualified organizations (your neighbor who lost everything in a fire doesn’t count). Remember that the amount you can claim for donated goods is what a willing buyer would pay for it in its current condition, not what you paid for it. Generally, I find that taxpayers undervalue non-cash contributions. Use this Goodwill Industries Valuation Sheet.  Or, you can use the ItsDeductible Donation Tracker app with built-in valuations. It also provides the convenience of tracking charitable donations throughout the year, (as opposed to finding all of your receipts at tax time).

So clean out your bulging closets and drop off clothing or household goods to your favorite charity!

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Medical deductions
Many taxpayers are unable to deduct medical expenses because of the high hurdles: either 7.5% if you or your spouse is over 65 years of age or 10% of adjusted gross income for all of the rest of us. Some who qualify for a deduction—many of them elderly—don’t take full advantage of medical deductions. If you pay for health insurance for yourself, your spouse or a dependent, (including a parent or grandparent), this in itself is usually enough to claim the deduction.

Did you know you can include mileage for trips to doctor’s offices, hospitals, therapists and pharmacies for yourself, your spouse or your dependents? You can and should.

My answer to this common question I’ve been asked is, “No, your fake boobs are not deductible (unless you’re a stripper)”. But a sex-change operation, quitting smoking and losing weight may be. Look it up at the IRS website. You’ll be surprised what is considered a medical deduction.

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State Sales Tax
Congress offers itemizers the choice between deducting the state income taxes or state sales taxes they paid. You choose whichever gives you the largest deduction. So if your state doesn’t have an income tax, the sales tax write-off is clearly the way to go. People who live in states that pay state income tax can benefit if they paid more sales tax due to large purchases. My husband and I chose state sales tax the year we bought our travel trailer, for example.

2) Missing the April 15th deadline
If you owe taxes and can’t get your forms finished by April 15th, file for an extension with Form 4868 by the due date. This will give you until October 15th to submit your tax forms. This extension does not extend the date for which you must pay any due taxes, however. Make sure to send any tax you owe with your extension request. If you don’t, you could face late-filing or non-filing penalties. So don’t make the mistake of missing the filing deadline!

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3) Dependents
No, your pet and dead-beat son are not dependents, but don’t make the mistake of omitting an eligible dependent exemption.

Many taxpayers stop claiming their child as a dependent once they turn 18 years of age. If that child is a full-time student, under the age of 25, and you provide more than 50% of their support, you can and should claim that child as a dependent and take any education credits that are due, as well.

In general, someone is a dependent if you provide more than half of his or her support—even if that person doesn’t live with you, such as a parent living on his/her own or in a nursing home, or a student who lives away from home.

4) Failing to itemize deductions
This is specifically geared to Kentucky residents. The Kentucky standard deduction is only $2,400, so itemizing is a good idea for lowering your Kentucky State Tax, even if you’re not qualified to itemize on your Federal Tax Return.

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5) Withdrawing from a 401K or IRA before the age of 59 ½
Not only is the withdrawn amount subject to income tax, but a 10% penalty will be imposed as well. I understand that desperation sometimes requires withdrawing from a 401K or IRA, but avoid it any way you can.

6) Using an incorrect filing status
Many times divorce decrees determine which parent is allowed to take the dependent exemption for one or more children. If the child(ren) lived with you for more than 6 months you can still file as Head of Household and claim your child(ren) as non-dependents for the purpose of Earned Income Credit.

Another filing status that usually doesn’t help your bottom line refund is “Married Filing Separate”. This filing status generally pays the most tax of all the filing statuses because many deductions and credits are disallowed.

7) The Earned Income Tax Credit (EITC)
The Earned Income Tax Credit is a refundable tax credit given to filers who earn low to moderate income from their jobs. The credit can be worth up to $6,143, depending on your income and how many dependents you have, but many overlook this credit. You must file your taxes to get it, so even if you make less than $10,150 (the minimum income filing requirement for filing status “single”), you should still file your taxes.

8) Not filing
I have seen so many taxpayers choose to not file for many years and lose refunds due them. If you have received refunds in years past, don’t be afraid to file late. You can claim a refund by filing for the past three tax years.

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9) Not withholding enough
If you don’t withhold enough, and owe more than $1,000 when you file your return, you will be penalized for underpayment of taxes. Many don’t realize that you can request a waiver of the penalty by using Form 2210.

10) You can amend your tax return
If you forgot something that may give you a bigger refund, you can file a 1040X
and amend your return for up to the past three tax years.

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There are 150 million opportunities for us taxpayers to shortchange ourselves.  Don’t pay Uncle Sam a penny more than you are required!